February 8, 2000

Dear Friends

This is the note no one wants to write or read.

Ellen began a new journey this morning, with new wings, perhaps a new form - but certainly the same wonderful soul.

We were not ready to start a journey in separate worlds, but God provided a path and Ellen was able to choose to follow it, with all my love and support.

Our 4 year journey was aided and comforted by dozens if not hundreds of you. You are a gift of immeasurable value. I will always be in your debt.

Her new journey began at 7:30 a.m., very quietly and with a great deal of peace. A compassionate emergency room staff aided me in one of the decisions no caregiver ever wants to exercise.

Our cancer support group is led by a minister and a MSW, and a second hopsital minister befriended us over the months. With their love and support my separate road started with prayers, compassion and realistic support - and I am thankful for that.

I won't be quoting blood stats anymore - but I will echo some old truths
-a temp of 100.5 is a red, very red flag - go to the emergency room immediately.
-pneumonia is a deadly condition and fast

Now my words of advice - hug each other now! Do it daily, do it often and do it with meaning - it is an investment in life.

Love to all -


"If dreams were wings we would each be butterflies" - Ellen May 1999

Ellen Louise Luttrell Palmer

Oakville resident and former Centralia resident Ellen Louise Luttrell Palmer died at age 58 Tuesday, Feb. 8, at Providence St. Peter Hospital in Olympia.

She was born Aug. 9, 1941, in St. Louis, Mo., to Edward P. and Glorianna Holschen, and later moved with her family to Oregon.

Following her education, she moved to the Seattle area, where she worked for Boeing Co. She later worked for Lane Community College in Eugene, Ore.

Her most recent job was with the Washington State Legislature in Olympia. She retired in 1990.

On Dec. 26, 1980, she married Dave Palmer in Bellevue. They have lived in Oakville since 1988. She raised, trained and sold Foundation Appaloosa horses since 1980.

An avid gardener, she was past president of Grays Harbor Chapter of Master Gardeners Foundation. She organized the first Oakville children's garden, and was an early member of the Oakville Chamber of Commerce.

She enjoyed working with and creating ceramics, and enjoyed quilting with the Oakville quilters group.

In addition to her husband, Dave, at home in Oakville, she is survived by her mother, Glorianna Jerard of Shoreline; a son, Lee Luttrell of Tigard, Ore.; a stepson, Keith Palmer of Enumclaw; a stepdaughter, Betty Palmer of Leavenworth; a brother, Chris Cole of Boston, Mass.; and two grandchildren.

Remembrances may be donations to The Sisters of Mary of Oregon, 4440 S.W. 148th, Beaverton, Ore. 97007, or to the International Myeloma Foundation, 2129 Stanley Hills Drive, Los Angeles, Calif. 90046.

A celebration of life will be conducted Sunday, February 13, 2:30 p.m. at Stickline Funeral Chapel in Centralia. The family will be welcoming guests at the family home later in the afternoon.

Editor's note: Ellen was involved in almost every circumstance surrounding the Chehalis River Council. Every newsletter that the CRC produced - from back in the days of fold, lick and stamp, slap on labels and sort by zip code - 800 mailed copies, to the most recent issue (now only slap on self stick-um labels and stamps) she touched every aspect of the organization - and was in fact the first paid secretary - until Multiple Myeloma stepped in. Ellen loved the Black River and considered it an honor to live on the banks of the river - even though on many occasions the river became a real threat to home and life. She will be missed.

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